Have you wondered what the big Bliss Habits Kitchen Sink prize winner does after winning? She goes to Disneyland!! Really that is just what Meg just did!! LOL I just love that this is true!! and better yet for us she also stops by Bliss Habits to share her perspectives on growth! I think you will enjoy the magic!
What do you think of when you hear the word, “growth”? I think many of us lean toward a literal interpretation, thinking of flowers pushing up out of the soil, babies growing into small children, then teens, stumbling their way toward adulthood. Some of us only remember to think of growth when we stare wearily at the growth of our expanding waistlines. And no one wants that kind of growth! Shrinking is a much more appealing idea!
I think the same is true for our spirits. We hear “growth” and know that it is something we probably ought to want. “Personal growth, yeah that sounds great,” we tell ourselves. Then we think of it as some lofty, unattainable goal, something abstract that only people who wear Yoga pants and meditate might be able to achieve. We glance at the fast food burger in our hand and think, “But maybe I don’t want to live in a vegan commune in the Alps. Maybe I just want to eat my burger and then play video games, is that really so bad??” So we recoil and shrink back, and avoid this intimidating notion of growth all together.
But growth means different things to all of us. For some, maybe it does mean living a life that includes meditation, and for others,growth happens when we do pick up that video game and remember how healing it is to have fun, to play, rather than be so Serious and Responsible all the time.
One thing we all tend to forget is that growth doesn’t happen like we think it does. We think of the end result, and forget all the tiny steps it took to get there. The forest that is suddenly green with renewed life in the Spring did not suddenly become that way at all. Each green chute worked its way up through the dark, thick soil, millimeter by millimeter. Each flower slowly and deliberately blossomed. Each solitary root of every plant soaked up minerals and moisture, and all of those teeny tiny steps led to extraordinary beauty.
The same is true for all kinds of growth. Quietly, in the dark, where it’s warm and safe, magic takes place; in a womb, in a caterpillar’s cocoon, in the deep soil… And within each of us, there is a safe, quiet place, where growth happens in small, yet substantial ways. To find it, we need only to close our eyes, see the darkness behind our lids. Take a deep breath, and imagine the darkness growing even darker. This is a safe space. A space where ideas can become reality. What do you really want? Who are you, really? Are you letting yourself be genuinely, authentically YOU?
By acknowledging all of this, we grow into our truest selves. And remember, growth is tiny. Growth is letting yourself make that joke, when you usually hold back because you’re just “not a funny person.” Growth is being able to mention that slight from an ex, or your parent, and not feel that rush of fury that usually accompanies it, because you’ve finally let it go. Growth is no longer putting up with being treated badly, by anyone, not even yourself. Growth is when you follow your dreams in small wonderful ways. You’ve always wanted to sing, so you let yourself sing in the car, then sing a duet at karaoke night with your friends, and next thing you know, you’re feeling more confident, so who knows what you might try next? Or maybe you’ve always wanted to own a pastry shop, but you already have a lucrative job that you like well enough. So on the weekends, you bake more, for family, for neighbors, for the sheer joy of it. From doing so, you connect with people, and in those small steps, you become the type of person to speak up on behalf of someone else who isn’t feeling quite so confident. Growth is small, subtle, unexpected, and beautiful.
Now, close your eyes, and ask yourself, what seeds do I wish to plant in the garden of my soul? What ideas have been sleeping in the cocoon of my imagination that are ready to take flight? What magic will I participate in today? What part of me is ready to grow?
Meg Toledo lives with her husband, toddler and two cats in Southern California. She is a freelance writer, a slow poke, and an animal lover through and through. She believes each day should contain at least one of each of the following: a burst of laughter, a kiss, a hug, and a moment to stop and just say, “Wow..” at life.