A Direct Experience of Love

“Love by Natasha” (Photo by Tamara)


Have you ever received a note from a child? Heart melting isn’t it? But why? What is it exactly? The words are scribbled. The design is usually lacking, sometimes it is very hard to read. But NONE of these things matter. When a child gives you a note, you are immediately transported into the moment, an experience. Tamara shares her moment with her daughter Natasha with us today:

Natasha asked me to take a picture of her and her friend Rose in their matching Karate shirts… my camera malfunctioned and gave me an “Err” message and wouldn’t take a picture. I mildly freaked out and almost cried but eventually took a deep breathe the tried to pretend it didn’t happen. (We had a guest over so I didn’t want to go overboard with my sadness.)

Just a few minutes later Natasha hands me a note in an envelope. She very sweetly said, “Read it.” and went outside with her friend.

I was just so amazed by her compassion and care and “love” for me! No one else in the room really noticed just how bereft I was, but she did!

I really felt loved when I needed it most.

p.s. I was able to take the photo on Cary’s camera! LOL!


When one thinks of LOVE, pictures of hearts and roses may come to mind but it is the experience of love that matters. Natasha took the time to write a note. She saw her mom needed her love and she gifted that experience. Love doesn’t live in words or pictures, it lives in the experience.

January sums it up nicely in her untitled love poem:


There can’t be a title to this poem
The way it is,
are not able to be fully represented without
direct experience, the descriptions
fall so terribly short,
like lighting a candle
to show the sun,
or filling a tub
to describe the ocean-
mere letters and words,
songs or sonnets,
no matter how stirring
cannot convey the concept
of what connects, dissects
And often resurrects

By January Handl

In order to know and feel Love, we need to have the experience. For this reason your Bliss Initiative for the week is to do something that helps another EXPERIENCE your love. You’ll have the experience for yourself too (a happy bonus!) and you’ll get very clear that you could never picture it or tell it perfectly. To give its gift Love has to be experienced.

So tell us, how will you experience Love today?


Tamara and January are here each Monday to help set the mood for the week!

Tamara Magnitsky

Tamara Magnitsky, a child of the wild blue yonder,
has been an ardent student and advocate for poetry, photography and excellence in general.
She is the mother of a 6 year old daughter and a beloved wife.
She can be found most days.

Bio written by Cary Brosius ~Tamara’s husband  🙂


January Handl

January Handl is first and always a mother, has been a preschool teacher and parent educator for 25 years. She is currently the Director/head teacher at Gazebo Park School, and lives at Esalen Institute in Big Sur. She lives simply in awe of existence.

She calls her photo “hot tub bliss”  🙂

4 thoughts on “A Direct Experience of Love

  1. Thank you for this post. As I sat and absorbed it, I was thinking of a Parkour demo our PK Nakusp group did on Canada Day. We opened up to the kids afterward. A mom was there with her 3 year old daughter. I’ve never seen them in our small community before. Other kids were jumping around going crazy. She locked her gaze on me as I rolled over the low bar and rolled across the mat. No words were spoken as we played our silent follow the monkey climbing, and rolling. After 10 minutes we had to prepare for our next demo and began to remove the mats. She and I looked at each other. and with a nod of approval from mom, we all smiled as they disappeared into the mass of people. A short moment of connection and affection that I know for me, and hope for them, will last a lifetime.

    • January Handl says:

      Thank you, Michael…wordless love is often the deepest reflection of a mystery beyond words… beyond symbology…beyond expression except the “being-ness” of the co-created moment…loved your sharing!

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