Linda Adsetts and The Group are here with their weekly Go for the Joy message. Enjoy!
There are many ways that you want to be romanced dear ones and we will tell you that you get what you give and you will only get what you are willing to receive.
So let us break that down for you.
How many of you are waiting to be romanced with large gestures that are fueled by what your media feeds you?
Romance comes in many forms and the grand gestures, though very nice, can be few and far between. More commonly romantic gestures, which we call love gestures are smaller and often more subtle.
You stick yourself if you expect to get large expressions of romance from someone whose language doesn’t include that. If you have never seen that expressed in your time as a small child, you will not ever think to make those grand leaps of which movies have been made of.
Fortunately, romance and love come in many forms. It comes in so many forms that your younger ones are making small movies to depict the smaller ways in which it is expressed. You could really take a few cues from them. (smile)
When you choose to be in a longer term relationship, as the time passes, the gestures can become smaller. You will find yourself giving up the need to have those grand gestures.
Having someone remember how you take your beverage, to take out the garbage, to reach out and caress you become the small pleasures of romance.
That is not to say that the occasional grand gesture isn’t appreciated-it is. And we ask you this-how many times do you plan something out of the ordinary?
Life isn’t meant to be ordinary and when you make it smaller and yourself smaller, by expecting just ordinary, you limit the possibilities that are available to you. We guarantee that if you make a little effort that you will see big results.
Give what they would like to receive and here is a clue for you-you may have to start paying attention to them in order to know what it is they can receive as a loving gesture.
Each of you has your own language and for women who lapped up the romantic stories, you may think that a candlelit dinner on a beach is just the thing to float his boat but he may want to be on a speedboat on the water. Often you don’t even have to be on it with him. You just have to make it happen for him.
Each of you is unique in your desires and sometimes they mesh but often they will not. What each of you are looking for is the feeling you feel, from having your desires filled. You want to feel seen and heard and you want to be appreciated. You want to feel the love.
Are you willing to feel the love? Are you willing to receive the love?
How many of you, both men and women are looking for something that isn’t there and not noticing what is right in front of you?
Are you willing to receive that? Are you able to appreciate the smaller ways in which someone is telling you how very much they appreciate you?
AND, DEAR ONES, are you willing to do the same for them?
You see, if you cannot allow yourself to sink into that loving feeling, then you will never feel it. You will always feel as if there is someone better over there. There might be and then again there might not.
We encourage you to nurture what is in your own backyard. See if you can reclaim that loving feeling and allow yourself to be romanced in the small ways. When you can do that then you can express your desire to be romanced in other ways by giving that to the other. But, remember that they are not mind readers and they need a few clues-often not subtle ones-to give you what you desire!
It can be a bit of a puzzle if you haven’t put it together until now.
But we promise you that if you play at it a little and you are persistent then you will find yourself in a new place, a more joyous place and you will wonder what took you so long to find your way there.
We are already celebrating the moments that you are willing to create!
Go For Your Joy
Linda Adsetts is a healer, medium, psychic reader, channeller and writer. She receives channelled guidance and inspiration from The Group, a gathering of spirit who teach that our souls’ path is best expressed when we come from a place of joy. You can read how Linda got started down this fascinating path here and on her website where she shares daily messages from The Group.
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