Beyond the fight


“Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”
-Eckhart Tolle

I find it hard to say it better than Mr. Tolle.

We often think of surrendering in terms of loss. We fight the battle and surrender only if there is no chance of winning. But in our daily lives, we have overlooked one very important factor: There is no battle.

My kids have demonstrated this idea in quite a humorous way (at least to me). They like to play a game of making up imaginary lands, then challenging the other to navigate through it. One will state, “There are zombies ahead and a dark forest to your right. What do you do?”. The other must reply, and then it is up to the creator of the scenario to share what happens next.

There have been countless times when an argument has ensued because of this game. The player will make up a magic potion which kills all of the enemies, which the creator deems inappropriate for defeating the foes at hand…and one of the two will then yell, cry, or throw a handful of Legos that always seem to be within reach. This is always followed by, “Maaahhhh-uhhhm! MOM! S/he …” ….well, you get the idea. (A brief time-out for them and an iced chai for me usually solves things. But I digress.)

In this game, there is no surrender. They either agree to keep playing based on the imagined terms of the other (i.e. they both keep winning), or they break down into a battle of he said/she said.

I find it interesting to think about our day-to-day lives in this manner.

We have some imagined idea of what is supposed to be. We are supposed to have a house, or a car, or good health, or an up-to-date laptop, or the close-to-perfect mate. If others around us play along, everyone wins. But if our partner suddenly behaves in an unexpected way, if our job becomes harder than we’d like, if the car breaks down or our bodies fall ill or the wifi stops working, we throw a fit.

(If you don’t believe me, take a scroll through your Facebook feed. How many times do you see someone complaining about something being other than the way they want it to be? Including you. Including me.)

The funny thing is, is that there is no fight. What is, is, and it is only our imagined expectations of what should be that stands in the way of us accepting this. Life is not a battle to be won nor lost. We all are born, we all die, and we all experience things along the way.

Surrendering does not mean giving up. It means opening up.

It means breaking apart the ideas and expectations you have about what should be and simply opening your eyes and your heart to what is. Again, this doesn’t mean giving up and letting everyone and everything walk all over you. From this opening place of surrender, you can you creatively navigate the world, your life, and your day-to-day doings. You can use your imagination, see the endless possibilities, and live beyond the fight.

Say yes. Surrender.

And keep the iced chai close by just in case.








About Lisa Renee Wilson

I am honored to be your host for this journey! I am an Awareness Artist who shares her world work through Being Breath ( As a parent, artist, contemplative, meditator, yoga practitioner, introvert, runner, blogger, photographer, and iced-chai addict, I practice the art of mindful awareness throughout all of my daily activities. From playing with perspectives to playing in paint, no moments are off limits for exploration.

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