My family and I just spent the past few days down in Disneyland. It was a great trip and we all had a great time together. The Girl LOVED meeting her favorite characters, riding the rides and watching the fireworks. At every turn magic awaited her and she was very sad when it was time to leave. We all were. You see we took a very meandering approach to our visit and there was no way we were ever going to “see it all.”
We wished we had more time.
We considered extending the trip another day.
We did what we could, but there were shows and attractions we missed and in the end we were already plotting our return trip.
We left wanting more and I realized this was an important distinction. Had my family and I stayed until we had seen everything, and if we actually got tired of being there, our interest in returning wouldn’t feel nearly as urgent. We love the place, and our desire to go again is fueled by our unfulfilled satisfaction. We have a passion for Disney and our WANT keeps that passion alive.
We have all heard the old adage “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” and many a great love song has been written BEFORE a couple ever share that first kiss. It is the wanting that fuels the passion. If you have ever been part of a couple, think back to the beginning of your relationship. Did you wait by your phone (or computer) for a message?Passion was simple amid the wondering of “will he call again?” As one navigates toward love, something calm and lovely is sometimes exchanged. The passion of want can easily be replaced with the satisfaction of having.
Think also of your career pursuits. When you are working to get that job, even if it isn’t a great fit, for your true hearts desire, you can see the good side of the opportunity and you crave the chance to make the position yours. The excitement may wear off but those who are most successful find a way to stay engaged and wanting of something more then a paycheck. In my own case I can look back and see that my passion for “getting the job” often outweighed my desire to actually do the job . The jobs that kept me wanting more, chance for advancement, mastery of performance or possibly the chance for great reward (a sales bonus, recognition or personal satisfaction) were the ones that held my interest. Once a job became easy or lacked wants and challenges, I could barely muster the interest required to show up. Then I would be off , relocating my passion in the pursuit of the next,” certainly better” opportunity.
When I think of my concerns (personal, political, environmental, whatever!) I realize that once I delve deep enough to get “answers” or at least a comfortable understanding of things I quickly lose interest. My passions are most often fueled by my interest, my want, for understanding. This often means that even if I get answers I don’t like (animals are getting hurt, safety is at risk, nothing has changed) once I get enough information I lose my passion for doing something about it.
When I am wanting there is nothing I won’t try. When I want don’t give up. When I want my passion runs deep.
When wanting is gone my passion wanes – This is the eureka moment because it puts me directly in the drivers seat of passion. I see now that I do not need to want for passion. It’s want of me can be the call to action I need. Knowing that being too satisfied causes me to lose interest, gives me the chance to inject curiosity. I can foster desire for specific outcomes rather then being satiated by the status quo. Things that deserve and require my concern get my passion because I say so, and I need not worry if the winds of satisfaction blow too closely.
How about you? Do you want for passion or does passion want you?