Everyone deserves Joy!

This is WHY I blog about Bliss!

“Spring Flowers from the Rubble”

A few weeks ago I was talking to my friend Lisa of LifeUnity about my preparations over here on Bliss Habits. I told her that sometimes I wondered, given the state of the world, if BLISS were really a topic worth pursuing. I love this blog BUT was I really just wasting my and everyone’s time here?

I heard myself saying, “There are people who need feeding, causes that need defending and stands to be taken! What the heck does BLISS have to do with this?”

And then, in the exact moment of asking, really asking, if this is what I should be doing the answer came.

Yes! Absolutely yes! Bliss has EVERYTHING to do with it.

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” ~ Dale Carnegie

People NEED to think about JOY.

Sometimes we simply forget. Laundry, bills, and deadlines loom. Cars don’t start, homework is lost, illness strikes. Daily living takes us further and further away from simple pleasures. It is easy to notice the wet sock when we step in the puddle but how often do you relish the pulling on of a dry one?

The mundane is powerful and we forget.

Going to and fro in our lives can absorb our attention and it often feels like the simple pleasures that once enthralled, lose their luster. If my kids are screaming and the car won’t start, it is understandable that the delight of a favorite sweater or the perfectly buttered toast just eaten, may be lost. However, if we learn to look for joy, possibly even create occasions for this bliss to become a habit, we can be joyful even when chaos is all around us.

The people of Haiti have seemingly perfected this. On just about every scale Haitians seem to be at the bottom, and this was before the earthquake! Even so, a vibrant and joyful culture filled with art abounds.

“Haitian Artwork” by James Dalphonse

When circumstances are overwhelming, think of the people of Haiti or Japan devastated by nature, or just on-goingly annoying, think rush hour traffic. In the middle of all of it, it is possible to notice tiny moments of inspiration. A small flower poking it’s way through the rubble. A traffic light that is green, when a red one would have made you late.

The greatest gift you can give yourself is joy, not only because of the feeling that goes with it at the moment, but because of the magnificent experience it will draw to you. It will produce wonders in your life. ~ Jack Boland

Everyone deserves joy. It will make the sad times easier and the good times richer. It makes us able to withstand the difficult and calls us to greater challenges. As my mentor Earl Nightingale put it, “We become what we think about.” and reminding people to think about joy is what this site is all about!

15 thoughts on “Everyone deserves Joy!

  1. You are SO RIGHT! And, studies have actually been done and so much of the time it is found that those with less are happier than those with much. As Americans, we sort of set ourselves up to be unhappy as our culture pushes us toward greed and discontent. We MUST think on blissful things and we MUST center ourselves within ourselves – absent from all that surrounds us – without this…we simply cannot be happy.

  2. I am working very hard at noticing the small things. The toast you mentioned is one I was particularly enjoying recently. I think that we wait to tell people about the big things (like the annual Christmas letter) and we have lost the ability to talk about the little things that fill our daily life. I think that people wrote letters telling each other what they were doing and we don’t do that anymore, so those things aren’t important anymore. People make fun of others who say what they had for lunch on Facebook, but I like it. It puts me in mind of what the person is doing and makes me wonder why they chose that sandwich or that soup. Noticing the small things would be my New Year’s Resolution, if I made New Year’s Resolutions!

    • Kathy says:

      Your comment has inspired me… I am thinking about some kind of “real letter campaign” during either an upcoming gratitude or community week… would you be interested in guest blogging on this topic?

  3. Ah hah! Found it. 🙂 THANK YOU for this amazing post, this inspiration and realization. I keep breathing this in, the importance of it in every breath.

  4. Kate G says:

    Today was a hard day to recognize joy in – sick kid and our house purchase fell apart – but I think the Carnegie quote and your reminder of true suffering around the world helped put it in perspective. Wish I’d checked here earlier though!

  5. You are so right we need to think on good things! Jesus said in John 15 after talking about abiding in Him, “These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full..”

    I read a very good book on this subject: “Who Switched Off My Brain? controlling Toxic Thoughts and Emotions” by Dr. Caroline Leaf. Here is a link to my review of it if you are interested: http://ourstack.blogspot.com/2010/10/who-switched-off-my-brain-controlling.html

  6. Good girl! Keep on reminding. I’m a blissful retired old lady who gets to do whatever she wants, but the world is full of busy, harried people and they need to hear your cheery message.

  7. You’re absolutely right–It’s difficult for many of us to focus on the positive, but I do believe that positive thoughts bring positive energy; I see it in my life regularly and am grateful.

  8. Karen B says:

    I can’t believe this post! I was just sitting in the car earlier this evening pondering this very topic! Thinking that feelings of love and joy are rarely ‘full on’ and feeling that maybe I’ve lost them. Thank you for reminding me that they are always there and that I’ve just got to look for them! xxx

  9. Wow, absolutely fantastic post! I found my way here via LifeUnity on Facebook and boy am I glad I did.

    I’m a huge cheerleader for finding little moments of joy in daily life . . . but you are SO right about letting “not that bad” comments and attitudes slip in. I have definitely done that.

    I am working on it, though, digging at the root of when I’m more frustrated in my life and seeing what I can do to change it. For instance, I love having friends over to our house, but hate spending all day cleaning. WHY do I wait, when taking ten minutes every day to pick up, wipe up, tidy up would make a huge difference in my joy level?

    Here’s to demanding joy! Thanks for a heart-challenging and encouraging post.

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