Got Trust?

When Trust week was approaching I had no idea who might be my guest blogger for the week. I had some very specific ideas about some of the other topics but this one loomed without inspiration and then it hit me! Doh! It is about trust!! Send the intention to the universe (in this case I offered an invitation via twitter) and the answer will come.

And what a lovely answer indeed! Otiti the gorgeous proprietress of the marvelous Radiant Soul Space (if you haven’t been, do stop by as soon as you read this!)  who I had already been following closely since several of my twitter pals had recommended her joyous riff, answered just minutes after I sent the tweet. Ahhh yes!  TRUST! Ask and expect an answer.  

Enjoy Otiti’s .

 

“Trust the journey” by catina jane gray
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When I saw Kathy’s open Twitter invitation for a guest post about trust, I jumped right on it faster than you could say “Me!” We ironed out the deets and I set forth to explore and conquer. How hard could it be, right?

Yes, well. Turns out trust is a rather meaty topic, isn’t it? One of the vital components of a full life and all that. Just like love, joy, passion, fulfilment, and even bliss, trust is one of THE flavours that make life so much sweeter.

So what IS trust, then?

It’s being open: baring your soul to your lover, your circle/tribe, the world. It’s about having the strength to show up fully, as you truly are deep inside, and knowing you’ll be honoured and accepted for it. It’s having the courage to wear your heart on your sleeve because you believe it’ll be seen and cherished, not seen and crushed.

Trust is about the freedom to choose your own path because you believe in your heart and trust [pun intended ;)] that it won’t lead you astray. It’s about going with the voice of your intuition because it’s coming from your core and only has your best interests at heart. It’s about letting yourself experience what your soul has to offer once you heed the call of the beautiful treasures within, aching to be discovered so they can enrich your life and the world around you.

Trust is about faith: knowing your loved ones have your back and will catch you when you fall. It’s about knowing they’re there to protect you and fight for you and bolster you when your tank’s running on empty. Hold a safe space for you when you need to vent or cry. Remind you just how incredible you are when you’re down and feel like shit. Cheer you on as you bounce back from a jarring experience.

Trust is sacred – a deep bond formed when you touch souls with another and there’s recognition, resonance, connection. It’s basically saying, ” I see you. I hear you. I accept you. I’m here for you. I’m bonded to you and will cherish you.”

Sometimes it’s instant, other times it grows over months or years, but trust is the basis of every lasting connection and the foundation of society. It drives everything: communication, love, art, commerce, politics, education, and intimacy. Everything we do is based on trust or the lack thereof.

We don’t have to teach kids how to trust because they believe in the goodness of the people around them. They believe they’ll be loved, looked after, and accepted. They believe they’ll have fun and be treated well, and so they start each day bursting with energy and sheer joy at being alive.

Why is it, then, that such joy and energy gets watered down as they get older?

Because life can be a bitch. Because people can be monsters and things can get ugly. It’s hard to stay trusting after being stung a number of times, especially when the seemingly infallible ones let you down. The truth is we can’t escape hurts and disappointments in this imperfect world, but we can choose to move past them and still enjoy all the benefits of genuine trust.

What if we remind ourselves how freeing it is to stop being so guarded and just trust in people? I understand the wisdom of caution around strangers and I’m not knocking it, but what if we had enough faith to just be who we are? If you show up as the fullest and most authentic version of yourself, chances are you won’t be too worried if anyone else is going to screw you over or not. Why? Because you’re having way too much fun being your delicious self, dahling.

What if we became more open about our needs and desires? What if we found strength in working in tune with, and not against, our instincts? How drastically would our lives change

Trusting yourself is daring to dance in your brilliance and showcase the dazzling masterpiece you truly are deep inside. It’s giving yourself permission to savour life and soak up every last drop of bliss available in each moment.

Trusting others is having faith they’ve got you covered and will cheer you on – even when they have to get you back on track or pull your head outta your ass because you’re too cocky to see or think straight. I think we can all relate to that, right? 😉

Trust is about believing in and connecting to something bigger than ourselves – a higher purpose we’re here to carry out, a journey we undertake to test our mettle and uncover our worth. It’s getting out of our heads and into our hearts, tapping into our emotions and living from our gut. When we operate from that place of trust and deep awareness, we find our lives are sweeter, richer, more satisfying and energising than we believed possible.

So today, I urge you to dig deep and examine where your trusts lie. Are they serving you? Are they infusing your days with joy and laughter? If not, it’s time for a reevaluation so you can reap all the benefits they have to offer: faith, freedom, growth, exhilaration, protection, and satisfaction. This list definitely doesn’t cover everything, but it does give you an idea of what you’re missing out on if you don’t trust yourself and/or the people around you.

May your trust bring you bliss. 🙂

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Hello! My name is Otiti and my passion is to ignite your soul to live your dreams. I’m fascinated by the deep questions and meaning of life, which is probably what turned me into a soul visionary, heart hugger, and huge love advocate. I believe we are all radiant souls, and you can find me urging you to dance in your brilliance at my blog Radiant Soul Space. Also come say hi on Twitter or Facebook; I love to connect! 🙂

14 thoughts on “Got Trust?

  1. Awesome post! We often take trust for granted, but it IS about connecting and believing! Thanks for the call to dig deep today! It’s a great reminder for Relaxation Day!

  2. Hi Otiti! It’s nice to meet you! This is a topic well-covered here! I’m trying to remember something I once heard Gary Zukav say on Oprah about trust. Something like our ability to trust others is a faculty of how much we trust ourselves. If we know we can handle things, we’re not so reluctant to trust others. I think you’ve filled in the blanks for this statement, though! 🙂
    Lori

    • Hi Tania, great to meet you too! Phew, I’m thrilled I covered it properly! I was telling Kathy that I gulped several times while writing it, ha ha. Oh ho ho, a reference to an Oprah interview!? My day is made. 😀

      I think Gary was right, though. How we treat the world is a mirror of how we treat ourselves, which makes total sense because it’s all about our mindset and what’s going on in our hearts. Goodness works from the inside out, not the other way around.

      Yay, thanks so much for leaving a comment, Lori! 🙂

  3. Thank you for having me, Kathy! Oh wow, I had no idea it was all so serendipitous! Yay for trust and the universe! 😀

    And your intro’s making me beam and blush at the same time, ha ha. Thanks so much! Mwah!

  4. The thing that always sticks out for me around trust is how we think it has to be earned. Instead, what if trust is there to be given?

    Beautiful post Otiti, excited to see you here at Bliss Habits my friend. xoS

    • Yes!! Thinking it has to be earned instead of given is a defence mechanism against hurt and disappointment, isn’t it? Especially around strangers and stuff. But you ask a great question and it could really change our lives if we treated each other with more trust and genuine goodwill. Like, we’re all in this together, you know? Might as well make the ride worth it. 🙂

      Thank you for adding to the conversation, Sandi! Always a pleasure rubbing minds with you. 😀

  5. Oh, Otiti~Reading this made the hairs on my body stand on end and gooseflesh appear on my arms. So many lines and nuggets…this will be a piece I have to sit with for a while, carving out one chunk at a time to chew on and learn from. And yes, all trust ultimately relates to trusting ourselves and the Universe, that no matter how badly we’re treated, we can handle it.

    • Thank you, Ellen! Woot, that means I gave it my all, then. 😀 I did wonder if I was being starry-eyed or simply soulful; I guess it’s definitely the latter, ha ha. Oh good, returning to it over and over again makes it a winner. Bonus!!

      I think trust is all about operating from a place of abundance and radiance, and not letting the fear of what “could” happen stop us from experiencing the wonder of what DOES happen when we really learn to trust ourselves + our intuition. So glad you stopped by! 🙂

  6. This was a really wonderful post, Otiti. Thank you. I will admit that I DO have issues with trust. Much of it very deep-rooted. Sometimes it is hard to let go of the mistrust. I sometimes doubt even those closest to me. Maybe for fear of disappointment, maybe of failure. Maybe of lots of things. But your post is SO hopeful and your enthusiasm makes me smile. I will try to have more trust – but believe me that is a very long and hard road for me. Thank you again, Otiti and Kathy.

    • Hi, Theresa! You’re most welcome and thank YOU for reading. 🙂 I appreciate your honesty and firmly believe you can turn things around so you become more trusting. As you say, it won’t be easy, but it’ll be SO worth it, right? I’ve found that fear of failure and getting hurt robs us of far too much in this life, and it’s up to us to fight back.

      So this is me, waving my pom-poms and hoping you cultivate a little more trust each day! The key is to imagine dropping all the baggage and making it reality. Trust is so freeing, don’t you think? Wishing you much success getting it flowing, Theresa. 🙂

  7. Otiti: There is no one I trust more in this world more than my family. There are other people I trust, but now that I am thinking about it, can there be different levels of trust? Or, can I only trust or not trust a person at all because I feel like there are some people in my life that I can trust to a certain extent.

    But, in any case, in order to be trusted I must first trust that people will accept me for who I am. That is my main lesson that I have learned from reading your guest post today. Of course, I must also have integrity and stand up for my beliefs.

    I want to earn peoples trust by them knowing that I would never give anything less than my best. In a business I believe that is the type of trust that I need the most.

    What do you think?

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