“Everything is a gift of the universe – even joy, anger, jealously, frustration, or separateness. Everything is perfect either for our growth or our enjoyment.” ~Ken Keyes Jr
Around here I tend to focus on the positive. “Cultivating delight,” the tag line of this blog certainly implies an optimistic approach, however today as we begin our week of inquiry, I want to discuss the other side of life. You know, the things we’d rather not think about strife, conflict, poverty, greed, meanness, outrage etc., in short all the places that make us angry or uncomfortable.
Go ahead, take a minute and think about them.
- Let your blood boil a little bit as you consider the rude guy who cut you off in some line or another.
- Think about the injustice of poverty and the abominable way in which our political systems try to address these facts.
- Consider that 100+ species disappear from the earth everyday and the continued deforestation around the globe will likely increase that number.
- Think about your own home and the amount of plastic and garbage you send to the landfill every year.
- Remember a time when you chose to make a final dig in an argument rather then choosing kindness.
Think about all of it.
Pretty soon one can get pretty depressed eh?
But what if I told you that these very things, the annoying, hard to live with and confrontational things are really the source of your true joy?
Think about it. If nothing ever made you angry you wouldn’t have much cause to look at things differently. We could blissfully float along enjoying every minute without care or concern. In a pretty short space of time I believe you’d actually be pretty bored. There would be nothing for you to do.
In his delightful children’s parable, The Little Soul and the Sun, Neal Donald Walsch speaks to this very thing. In his story a little soul considers what it wants to be (light, love, compassion, joy) and learns that in order to experience this, the opposite (dark, hate, anger, sadness) have to exist for the little soul to BE what it wanted to be. In the end of the story God asks the little soul to remember that everyone, and I will add everything, is an angel here to remind us of who we want to be.
Extrapolate this into our day to day lives, it is the very things that cause our ire which shine a light on who we are. I am easily angered by a woman with a straw and a haughty contemptible man showing my true concerns for environmental responsibility and my belief that all people, including service professionals, should be treated respectfully. If I were never angered, I wouldn’t have access to the opportunities to do or at least feel something I consider very important.
You’ve likely heard the adage “Necessity is the Mother of Invention,” I’d like to suggest that it is generally an uncomfortable, annoying, even rage inducing sittuation that encourages the majority of invention. If people weren’t saddened by disease and illness, there would be little impetus for trying to cure it.
So consider your life. Where ever things are NOT as you might wish them to be consider these things your “angels.” These very spots are telling you the exact places your soul is asking to light. These uncomfortable nooks tell us where growth and new understanding are possible. An inquiry into these very spots can set you on the road to finding and living your greatest joys if you don’t fear them.
As we enter this week, a week of Inquiry here at Bliss Habits, these are the places I am going. The dark, the uncomfortable, contemptible and messy. I am clear the real joy is on the other side. Bliss requires its opposite for full enjoyment.
Will you be joining me?