Kindness Begins Here

The Kindness of Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche


Welcome to Kindness week! From the moment I decided that I would be changing which Bliss Habits I would study, I knew that Kindness had to be a part of things. As a mother my biggest wish is that my daughter grow up to be kind. I believe Kindness is the hallmark attribute of a life well lived.

When Tamara was asked for her weekly photo she said “I felt that kindness was best expressed by the Buddhists. “Loving Kindness” is the cornerstone of the Buddhist teachings. I could have orchestrated a moment but felt Khyentse was the true embodiment of kindess, At least to me…”

I think she was spot on! The face of a person living in kindness is very moving don’t you think?


Mutual Harvest

By January Handl

Kindness is like a mystery seed,
where there is no possible way
of truly understanding
what can grow from the planting,
no possible comprehension
of the potential expansion
that may spring forth from
the tiniest of containers.

It unfurls from the true center of one-ness-
the very core of our shared vulnerability:
Shared silence of awe or peace
A sweet touch,
Heart met eyes,
Knowing nod,
Firm embrace,
Loving word,
Compassionate reflection,
Extended hand,
Tender smile,
Gentle word,
Courageous action.

Each kernel can blossom
into showers of traveling
flowering into a world
that hungers to make more
of the beautiful
aroma of love.

Thank you for that January. We never know how far a kindness may reach do we?

In the Theravadin Buddhist tradition, Mettā, the practice of Kindness, begins with  cultivating loving-kindness towards yourself, and then  loved ones, friends, teachers, strangers, enemies, and finally towards all sentient beings. So, let’s start our Kindness exploration with an essential Bliss Initiative to be Kind to the person in the mirror.

Think about how you might treat a small child and gift your self the same courtesies.

  • Notice yourself doing good
  • Reflect on your good qualities
  • If you make a mistake -forgive yourself
  • Make time for self care
  • Acknowledge your successes

Let us know in the comments how you will be kind to yourself today!


Tamara and January are here each Monday to help set the mood for the week!

Tamara Magnitsky

Tamara Magnitsky, a child of the wild blue yonder,
has been an ardent student and advocate for poetry, photography and excellence in general.
She is the mother of a 6 year old daughter and a beloved wife.
She can be found most days.

Bio written by Cary Brosius ~Tamara’s husband  🙂


January Handl

January Handl is first and always a mother, has been a preschool teacher and parent educator for 25 years, and currently is an early head start home visitor in her community. She resides with 2 dogs and a cat in Boulder Creek and and simply lives in awe of existence.

She calls her photo “hot tub bliss”  🙂

8 thoughts on “Kindness Begins Here

  1. Hooray for kindness week! Kathy, I am loving your new habits of bliss!!!! And kindness is a big thing for me. How will I be more kind to myself? Well, I will be honest – I can be VERY tough on myself. I will try to find one small thing to compliment myself on today. I made a great dinner for me and my hubby. I am a pretty good cook – there, that is a kind thing to say to myself. Thank you!

    • Kathy says:

      Yay! Theresa, I’m so glad you are being kind to yourself today and that you like the new habits! I would also like to say that you are one of the kindest people I have met in the blogosphere, I feel very blessed to have you as a long time friend of Bliss Habiits and me!

  2. Hi Kathy,
    I really like this line: “Kindness is the hallmark attribute of a life well lived.” I had never thought about it until I read that line but it is SO true. When I have gratitude for my life, I find myself being a much more kind person. Why? Because I have such a genuine appreciation when I have gratitude that I cannot help but express it. People feel this sincerity and respond well to it.

    So how will I be kind to myself today? Hmmm… good question. I am going to make sure to get a solid 8 hours of sleep tonight. I think my body will LOVE that…

    And also, once again thank you so much for introducing me to Alex. I really appreciate it.

    • Kathy says:

      Thank you for stopping by Izzy! and for your kind comment! Interestingly enough I slept 8 hours last night. I had considered setting an alarm but decided to let my body say when I was done!

      Sweet dreams to you!!

  3. Kathy, kindness towards myself is something I have been practicing (I was going to say trying to practice, but then I remembered your daughter and Yoda – there is no try!) self kindness by being aware of the things I achieve rather than focusing on the things I don’t do – so I appreciate that I weeded a flower bed in the garden rather than berating myself for not completing the whole garden in one go, I enjoyed watching (for the whole day) the Diamond Jubilee celebrations on TV without feeling bad about not doing the othere things that I could have done – I intend to keep going with this – and extend it out to my family and others. I’m looking forward to my world being softer and mellower!

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