Loving What Is

Storm by Eduardo Marquetti

As stress and the chaos, good or bad, swirl around us, it’s hard to keep an eye on the prize, so to speak. It’s easier to focus on the storm, because it’s catching your eye, drawing your energy. But letting it have all your energy means falling into the storm itself, rather than observing from a safe distance and getting on with things.

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Storm by Eduardo Marquetti
“Storm” by Eduardo Marquetti

My life’s a bit of a whirlwind right now, as I simultaneously get ready to move *and* prep for a cross-country trip. While there are a whole lot of things going right – vacation, connecting with friends, new home, new clients, excitement all around – even good change is stressful, and I’ve been finding myself struggling to find the good – or the love – in anything.

I know I’m not alone in this – as the stress and the chaos, good or bad, swirl around us, it’s hard to keep an eye on the prize, so to speak. It’s easier to focus on the storm, because it’s catching your eye, drawing your energy. But letting it have all your energy means falling into the storm itself, rather than observing from a safe distance and getting on with things.

So what can we do? How can we stay connected to the good, how can we love what is, even in the midst of stress, chaos, and storms?

  1. Know what focuses you, and use it to your advantage. For me, this is lists (and lists of lists, and lists inside of lists). Not just lists of things to get done, but lists of things that make me happy, that make me smile, that are positively brilliant in my world. Whatever focuses you, make a point to direct your attention there, and fill it not only with things you need to do, but things you love to do as well.
  2. Remember why the storm is happening. If it’s good chaos, this is easy (like my upcoming vacation). But you can do this with negative stresses and chaos, too. Were you reaching for a goal, and then something fell through? You were still reaching – still made a step, and that deserves celebration.
  3. Accept what you can – and can’t! – do, and let the rest go. In every situation, there’s a point at which we have no more control over the outcome – and banging our heads up against that wall does nothing but waste energy and drag us into a crappy mood. Don’t get caught up trying to force things you have no control over! Breathe it in, and let it go.
  4. Smile. Just smile. For ten seconds, thirty seconds, a minute. It’s amazing how quickly your mood can change.

What are you struggling to love this week, and how can you let go (and maybe love yourself a little more in the process)?

Danielle NelsonDani Nelson is a geek and a hippie with a passion for helping smart, creative entrepreneurs make their businesses better. Her secret ingredients? Strategy, tenacity, tasty beverages, and two unshakable beliefs: that you (yes, you) have awesome things to share with the world, and that marketing doesn’t have to be awful.

4 thoughts on “Loving What Is

  1. Great piece Dani! Congratulations on your move which I am sure is very exciting. I moved cross country 4 years ago and yes it can be stressful even when it is exactly what you wanted!
    Your tips are excellent and I used a few of them myself, back then!
    Good Luck and hope your vacation fills your joy vessel to the brim and overflowing!
    Linda

  2. VERY exciting with the move Dani! Best wishes with the move and the trip! LOVE this advice from you this week… The last one tip especially… so much can lift with just a smile. :o)

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