Linda Adsetts and The Group are here with their weekly Go for the Joy message. Enjoy!
Many of you might find it difficult to believe that I am having trouble writing about Cherish. It is sticky for me because I find myself realizing that unlike most people, (or so I think) my memories can be vague and for the most part, I cannot call up those moments that others cherish and hold dear to their heart-those Hallmark moments that are celebrated as cherished memories.
I try to remember the feeling of holding my sons, that first moment after they were born. I cannot feel that. What I can feel is the last hug I had from each son. They are both excellent huggers. They do not hold back and every cell of my being feels that hug with an intensity that is very real, for a time.
My husband, who is a romantic, remembers vividly things that I don’t. He talks with a depth of feeling of special moments and I find myself feeling somewhat like was a bystander. It baffles him when I can’t engage, with feeling, in those “remember when” moments that every couple shares. I find myself pretending to remember with him trying to ride the wave of his memories.
How odd is that?
Perhaps I was such a different person in the past. Maybe that is why it feels like someone else’s story. But, I do cherish moments in the moment and for some time after. I just can’t bring forward the past moments into my present, with the detail and feelings that others can. I wouldn’t be very good at writing for Hallmark cards.
My intent has been to be in those special moments with those that I love, in that moment. I want to revel in the moments as they are, there and in that moment, but for the most part, I am a quiet in my appreciation.
My husband is not. He is capable of being in the moment talking about it with abandon-how wonderful it is-how beautiful it is. I love moments that arise but I quietly love them and he loves moments and he loudly loves them. The whole world knows that he does. Maybe that is why he has the feeling recall that I lack.
Maybe I am quiet because he is so verbose. Maybe, my quieter responses are drowned out by his enthusiastic and frequently loud words of appreciation. This writing has gone in a direction I hadn’t expected. I wonder what it would take to change this or do I even want to?
We are all different in our beings. We are all perfectly matched with the people who will grow us into the fullness of our being. I believe that and perhaps this is a lesson he has for me.
Meanwhile I will continue to cherish moments as they arise and for the most part, quietly appreciate the world around me.
Each of you is different in your response to the world around you. You are not the same and we would encourage you not to judge yourself for being different. We would also encourage you to ask questions and consider that perhaps, some things are not your natural way of being.
Your natural way of being is filled with joy and is capable of being in as many times lines that you desire. Sometimes you have disallowed yourself of this because you cannot pick a single moment and you find yourself back in a general place where not all the moments are so nice. You have trained yourself, in this way, in order to protect yourself from the moments that would bring you to your knees with sadness or grief. So everything is left behind-the good as you call it and the bad.
You recognize, at the core of your being, that it doesn’t always work out so well when you do this. But where you stand and where you have stood, have delivered you here.
So dear ones, if you want to change this then we can let you know that you can. All you have to do is to decide to change it. You can bring forth all the moments that feel so very delicious, the ones you don’t “remember” and we promise you that you do remember, into your present moment. You can ask for the stickiness of the past to be left behind but only if you have truly healed the ones that are sticky.
We speak to Linda, specifically now, knowing that some of you will find this of value. You do not have to be afraid of what will arise. You carry it all with you and as you integrate those moments into your present time, know that we are close by, holding you, steadying your energy in order to have a smoother transition.
Ask and it is given. It is all you have to do. There is no need to set cherished memories aside in order to shield yourself from the other moments that you don’t like so much. You can ask to feel the joy of the cherished moments that you carry within your being and ask for the others to be there nestled in the joy that is you now-in this moment-in this timeline.
You are never alone, you never were and you never will be.
Find your joy-recall those moments back into the timeline that you are in and have it be part of your grand story of life on planet earth. Just ask. Just ask. Just ask.
Oh-and dear ones-remember, always to remember the joy.
Linda and The Group
Linda Adsetts is a healer, medium, psychic reader, channeller and writer. She receives channelled guidance and inspiration from The Group, a gathering of spirit who teach that our souls’ path is best expressed when we come from a place of joy. You can read how Linda got started down this fascinating path here and on her website where she shares daily messages from The Group.
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