I just couldn’t be happier to share Rebecca Faythe, who until now I really have only known as the Bliss Diva! Our paths were meant to cross and as two Bliss-y gals over on twitter it finally happened. I’ve been having great fun following her there (perhaps you should too @BlissDiva1) and when she mentioned that she was good at resolve, well then I just knew she needed to stop by here.
Please enjoy her powerful words and when you are finished, check out more of her Bliss over at her Delicious Bliss blog!
Resolve is a trickster. It shows up in a flash of fire and light and wonder and awe, leaving you frantically plowing forward with all your might. But as soon as it shows up, it’s gone again – poof! Like the great magician it is.
Then sometimes, resolve is in hiding. Resolve can be a hermit, lying in wait, deep in the dark forest – waiting for you to find it, so it can teach you its lessons.
Resolve is what makes magic happen – it is what makes all the wonderful dreams you dream in to reality, in this mundane plane. Various people are skilled in resolve – but not all in the same way. Some are skilled in receiving the flash – for them, it really is a wild fire in the imagination. They are the Beginners, the ones who shoot the flame. However, these people tend to have a hard time maintaining the fire – they aren’t skilled in the ways of fire-keeping.
Then there are those who are quiet, who allow themselves to be led blindly through the darkness of the forest, overcoming the demons and monsters and wolves – in order to find the Fire-Keeper, the old man of resolve, bending over the hearth.
Step into the warm cabin. Hear what Resolve has to say. He looks at you with grey old eyes, a wry smile on his face, as if to say, you already know all this, wise one.
Resolve, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, means, as a verb, “to deal with successfully; to find an answer to; to make clear and understandable.” However, as a noun, it means a “fixity of purpose.” You choose your purpose, focus all your energy on it, and ride wildly towards it – eyes ever fixed upon it. Obstacles may come up in your vision, but, with your immense strength, you overcome them, never taking your eyes off the target.
But what is the target? Put simply, the target is your desire. What makes your soul soar? What makes you immensely joyful? What makes you life fuller, better, sweeter? This desire isn’t any mundane desire – it isn’t just any old want. This desire is what inserts ecstasy and passion and wonder into every moment of your life. This desire is what drives you to grin and giggle in spite of what problems lie before you – because you desire is far more wonderful, and is completely worth the challenges.
Guess what? You’ve just figured out something amazing. Your divine desire is your resolve. Everyone has a divine desire – something that causes bliss to emanate in their deepest of hearts. The real challenge is finding it, underneath all the rubble of the crash-and-burns of mundane desire. Often, this divine desire isn’t at all what you expected – and other times, it is. But it takes a lot of digging, and a lot of groaning, and sometimes a lot of tears – but when the gold is unearthed, the light shines in the eyes.
Once this divine desire is discovered, you’re faced with another challenge – keeping it. Divine Desire, our Resolve, can be a slippery creature that tests you by wiggling in your grasp with all its might, trying to figure out whether you’re strong enough to keep it before it slithers underneath the cold earth once more. You might accidentally drop it several times, having to again dig through the dirt and grime to catch it once more. This may happen twice, thrice, five times – so many times that you wonder if it’s worth it anymore. It is worth it, darling. It is worth all of your hard work and more. Your resolve wants you to hold it in your arms. But it enjoys playing hard-to-get, too.
Want to know the Big Wild Wonderful Magic Secret of Keeping Your Resolve?
It’s a top-secret secretive secret. You might need to learn a complicated hand gesture in order to release it from the safe.
Teehee, I’m just kidding! It’s a super-simple technique, designed by the ancient magicians of Atlantis simply for the Brilliant Bliss Cultivators of 2012.
(I’m just being silly. Want to know what it is now?)
The secret for keeping your resolve is by plowing mindlessly forward.
When you decide to just pick away at something over a period of time, your resolve is inevitably lost. Instead of trusting your innermost longings, you begin to over-think, which leads to doubting, which leads to slippery fingers letting go of resolve. The secret to keeping your resolve is to grab hold of it as soon as it shows up, and ride it to the end, not worrying about mistakes or flaws – only trusting that your heart knows what to do. The editing and perfecting can come after the wildfire has blazed.
In addition, it’s immensely helpful to have a support network. People who support your wild resolve and divine desire. People who will push you, and push you, and push you, until the horse has been ridden, until the fire has burned. People who want you to keep your resolve, just as much as you want to. These people are your tribe. These people want desperately for you to succeed. Find those people. They, along with plowing mindlessly forward, is what you need to achieve everything you dream of.
Resolve has spoken. Your bliss is waiting for you. Will you, wise one, grab hold of it?
Rebecca Faythe is the Bliss Diva of Delicious Bliss – an Alaskan backpacker with big ambitions, she dreams of helping all people of the world find and follow their bliss, no matter what circumstances they are in.