Taking Back My Life

I am so excited to introduce you to Steve Roy today. Steve is on a year long adventure to “find more passion and meaning in his life, and to discover that which makes him happiest.” Proceeding in a manner not unlike my initial Bliss Quest and Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project, Steve is not satisfied with day to day living in the grind and he is doing something about it. He is here today to share how he started this year long project, which you can also follow at Ending the Grind.

I love a good quest, and this is one worth following. Take it away Steve:

"Grind" by Mindy Strauss (click image for details)


Every so often there comes a moment in our lives that make us question why we’re here. You may or may not believe that we all have a purpose in life, but I do.

Four months ago, I interviewed Penelope Trunk for my weekly Podcast series. And what started out as a traditional interview turned quickly into something far more interesting.

Penelope questioned my reasons for blogging, my goals (or lack thereof), and told me I was lying to my readers and to myself. She unleashed some pretty harsh words which left me shell shocked after the call ended.

What did I do to piss her off? Did she not like me? Or was she just plain crazy?

After getting bombarded with an onslaught of comments and emails after I posted the call, I began to understand the value of Penelope’s words.

She was in fact, not crazy. She actually gave me an incredibly valuable lesson in being true to myself which made me start to ask myself some difficult questions.

  • Do I really have any goals at all?
  • Am I creating a business here or just escaping reality?
  • How do I want to spend my days?
  • What do I actually want to do for a living?

The Start Of The Grind

When I started my blog in October 2010, I had one thing in mind. And that was to quit
my job.

You see, I have been miserable in my job for many years and it’s taken a toll on my happiness, energy, family, and I swear, my sanity.

When I started blogging, I fell in love. I loved blogging and everything to do with it. I knew it was what I wanted to do for a living.

But unfortunately, like many others new to online business, I had no idea what type of business I wanted nor did I have any idea of how to make money.

I spent a year building readers, twitter followers, subscribers, and all the other stuff you’re “supposed” to do but had not dedicated any time to creating an actual income producing business.

After my interview with Penelope, it really hit me that I had no plan for my business. As much as I wanted (and thought) I was going to become an Internet entrepreneur and quit my job, I had no clue at all how to get there.

The Search For Answers

It was then that I began devouring as many personal development books as I could read. Books about my personality type, books about spirituality, and books about passion. I wanted to understand myself better and create a plan for my life.

One of the books I read during this time was The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. I was immediately inspired by her idea to spend a year searching for ways to improve her life and create more happiness and fulfillment.

It was in this period that I found that quitting my job was not my main goal at all nor was it the source of my unhappiness. So I decided to “rebrand” my blog from a negative, cubicle hating, bitter rant to something more positive.

I decided to focus instead on finding some answers to questions like:

  • Why am I really so unhappy and what can I do to become happier?
  • What do I really want out of life?
  • What are my fears and how can I overcome them?

It was shortly thereafter that I decided to launch my very own project that I call The Year Of The Grind. I made the decision that I had had enough. Enough just getting by in life. Enough being unhappy all the time. Enough of doing all the things that society tells me I have to do and yet I hate doing.

I wanted to challenge myself physically, mentally, and emotionally. And I wanted to do it as publicly as possible.

The Year Of The Grind

So I am taking 2012 and using it to do things I have never done, having conversations I never thought I would have, and becoming the person I never thought I was capable of being.

It’s about becoming a better person and learning how to enjoy life. It’s about being happy for the first time in ten years and waking up with a sense of excitement and joy.

And I’m sharing this journey on my blog and am doing it with a group of like minded people. My goal is to not only create something remarkable in my life, but to inspire others do follow suit.

I know for a fact that there are millions of men and women who feel trapped in their lives. They feel like their life is at a standstill with little hope for improvement. Life doesn’t have to suck and I’m here to prove that.

I have been a miserable human being for for too many years and it stops now. Life is far too short to waste another precious day being angry at what life has dealt us. If we want to change our lives for the better (and who doesn’t?), the we need to get better. We need to think differently and do things differently and it has to start now!

That life of mediocrity may be OK in some people’s book, but it’s not in mine! What about yours?

Whether you choose to follow along with my journey, choose to join me, or don’t give it a second thought, that’s OK. All I ask is that you be honest with yourself and if you are not truly happy, you owe it to yourself (and your family) to find out what makes you

And when you find that thing that lights your fire, do it and do it right now…



Steve is on a year long journey to become a better person, find more passion and meaning in his life, and to discover that which makes him happiest. He shares his journey at EndingTheGrind.com and would love for you to join him!




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5 thoughts on “Taking Back My Life

  1. Kathy says:

    Steve, I just love your project. I started Bliss Habits as a way to publicly hold myself accountable to my promise to cultivate Bliss. When I started I didn’t even know if it was possible, it is. I am reaching the interesting place of… yep, it works but now what? So I am watching what you discover with bated breath, hoping your journey in some way helps point me to my own.

    Wishing you clarity and joy in the process!

  2. Kathy,
    Thanks for the invite to share my story with your readers. You’ve got a great site here and I can see you are doing good things in your life.

    This is going to be an interesting year, that much I know and holding myself out there for the world to see is a huge part of how it will come to pass.

    Being publicly accountable is HUGE and I love that you’ve done this as well..

    Here’s to a great year 🙂

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