For the past year, one of my greatest delights has been having Chel be a part of things here at Bliss Habits. I love how her beautiful posts show up, without my having to do anything and that she always has the perfect “other side” to my thoughts of the week. I can not tell you how often I was struggling with something about a habit or my project as a whole when Chel’s perfect post would show up. I really couldn’t wish for a better compatriot in the land of Bliss.
Chel, does not know this yet, (psst you can be a part of the surprise now!) but as a thank you for being more then I could ever wish for in a sidekick I’ve picked her up a little gift. To see what it is and to win one for yourself you’ll need to scroll down to the end of this post. But before you do that, Let’s hear what Chel has to say today:
Welcome to Tuesdays with Chel.
Each week Chel Micheline of gingerblue dot com will offer her perspectives on our Bliss Habits. Please enjoy the wisdom and clarity she offers.
“Experience enlarges you by weaving itself into the fabric of your identity;
you are the sum of all you have experienced.”
Ten things I’ve learned from writing at Bliss Habits (in no particular order)…
– Humility, while being the hardest thing to write about, is probably the most important part of well-being. And by humility, I mean this: the sooner we get honest about who we really are (the bad *and* the good) and the sooner we start to honor those truths about who we are every single day, the sooner we figure out how to make the world work for us.
– The process of discovery is more important than the result. The questions are much more important than the answers. The key it to allow SPACE and TIME for the questions to evolve. It seems that humans are SO focused on the answers, the end, the results, the destination. The truth is that most of the goodness and wisdom and creativity in the world is in the *path* to that end point.
– You can be a total control freak and still leave room in your life for surprise. For me, it’s having a huge selection of teas to choose from every day, ordering art supplies by mail and then *not* watching the tracking information, and not planning my days too far in advance. I still feel super comfortable with all these things, but there’s a lot of room for pleasant surprises in my daily rituals.
– There are some communities, situations, groups, etc that no matter how much time we spend in them, will NEVER be a right fit for us. Period. I spent years and years wondering why on earth high school was so difficult for me, even a little bit traumatic. It was only this past year that I finally realized because it was absolutely not the right fit for me, and I couldn’t have thrived there unless I was a completely different person. It’s just like in gardening- there are some plants that just will NOT thrive in certain areas of the world. You could get the healthiest plant specimen, the best seeds, the best soil, tons of light and water and love, and that plant is just not going to flourish. In life, we have to recognize what our “ideal conditions” are and make a point to seek those out. And also to forgive ourselves for not growing in certain places during our lives
– Intention isn’t so much about setting goals and following through, it’s about tapping into your own personal sense of intuition and then allowing that intuition (which is your personal GPS system) an opportunity to respond to you. You don’t always have to take the advice it gives, but listening to what it has to say is almost always helpful.
– Beauty is often found in the very familiar.
– Gratitude can usually be found quietly tagging along in the shadows of other, BIGGER emotions. I always thought I was just immune to feeling gratitude until I realized that, for me, it was softer and often was found in the emotions connected with joy, happiness, relief, awe, etc.
– Meditation and mindfulness isn’t about clearing your mind of all thought and feeling and KEEPING it that way, it’s about refocusing, over and over, on just being and feeling EXACTLY you at each moment. If you are crabby, be crabby. If you are tired, be tired. Don’t embellish it, don’t imagine what might happen as a result of how you feel, just discover the truth in it and gently return to that, as often as you need to. What I mean is, instead of telling yourself: “I feel tired, so that means my swim will be hard and then I’ll be dragging all day and I won’t et any work done and then the rest of my week is ruined…”, try “I’m tired. My neck is hurting. My head feels heavy. I’m tired. The air in here is cool. It’s good to close my eyes and rest for a minute. I’m comfortable. I hear some people talking. I’m tired.”
– It’s perfectly okay to build yourself a little box of “what’s okay” and stay INSIDE that box. Life can still be awesome and exciting even if you don’t venture out of that “box” all that often. I know this flies in the face of expert advice that urges all of us to “step out of our boxes” and into the unknown as often as possible. But for those of us who had earlier lives filled with “the unknown” and no “box” to return to when life got too much, we’ve *earned* our little boxes of comfort and boundaries. We painstakingly built those “boxes” from materials that came as a result of difficult personal experiences. The “outside the box” advice is for those who have spent their whole life in a box, not for those of us who never had the luxury of a “box” to begin with
– If you have a kid (or know a kid), spend some time observing them. You will learn a tremendous amount about whimsy, creativity, and just being OKAY.
Thank you for that Chel. I am so happy that you have found value in your participation here! Also, thank you for sharing these marvelous lessons!
Now on to your gift. Symbolic of all the wishes you have answered for me and for the delight you bring, I want you to have one of these lovely “Make a Wish” necklaces for your very own. Thank you Chel! xoxox Kathy
These beads are fascinating.
A crystal clear, hollow glass bead, painstakenly filled with the tiniest dandelion fly-away seeds, carefully sealed with antique brass bead caps, and securely wirewrapped and attaached to a 20 inch very dark colored vintage looking chain, Finished off with a lobsterclaw clasp. 35.00 Value (Blog post entry)
How to win one of these marvelous necklaces for yourself!
1. Leave a comment about how you enjoyed this or any of Chel’s posts here at Bliss Habits
2. In a separate comment tell us why you’d like to win the gorgeous necklace.
3. Stop by Chel’s Blog, Gingerblue and leave a comment on a post you like there. Let me know in a comment here that you did so.
4. Tweet the following:
I just entered to win @KarmaNamaste ‘s gorgeous necklace in the @BlissHabits Blogversary #apolooza http://bit.ly/JsDffe
Do all four and you have four chances to win!
Winner will be selected at random from all entries
received by Thursday, May 31, 2012. We have a winner! Congratulations Melissa H.!!
Check out the complete Blogversary-apolooza giveaway list and learn how you can double your chances!!