The Journey can be Loving when…

Linda Adsetts and The Group are here with their weekly Go for the Joy message. Enjoy!

“Heart Love Journey” by Dini Burny

On Wednesday I hosted a Teleclass, my very first one! I was excited and also a little anxious about it. What if I wasn’t as prepared as I could be? What if I didn’t do as well as I wanted to?

The class went well and I had fun. A few minutes after I hung up the phone, it rang. It was my husband. He was out of town on business and yet he remembered that I was doing this. “How did it go?” he asked. My heart opened up with gratitude. He remembered.

A year ago we were locked in anger, sorrow and definitely not in a place of gratitude. I had expectations and he had expectations and very few of them were being met. We were not happy and our marriage, our relationship was not in a good place. I didn’t know if it was worth keeping and he felt much the same.

A few years ago I read a book called The Five Languages of Love. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend that you do!

Each of us has history. We have come to believe that love should look a certain way. It should look like our parents’ marriage or the complete opposite or many things in between that. If your language doesn’t match the person you are in a relationship with then you will probably not feel seen, heard or appreciated.

Our language of love can completely f**k up our relationship because we aren’t on the same page!

But what if we could change that up? Reading the book, Five Languages Of Love, will be helpful in your understanding and what if there were another way?

What if by being in gratitude for the other person, we could step outside of what love means to us. Love is a four letter word and it isn’t always a good thing. The word love holds so many expectations for each us and all of them are a little different, because we are different. But, none of those expectations were ours to begin with. As children we observed our world and moulded ourselves in response to it.

Dad did this and so that must be love or mom said this and that must be love. The fairytale story reads this way and on it goes.How did your language of love get birthed?

But, what if you set that language aside and really saw the person in front of you? What if you saw them through the eyes of gratitude?

Are you in gratitude for the ways that they show up for you? Are you willing to receive their offerings?

Could it be that in the receiving that you will receive more than you had ever hoped for? Would the receptiveness to their being, warts and all, eyes wide open, be the key to receiving more?

Fortunately we both arrived at this place. It was a rocky road with many dips and turns, but the journey was worth it.

The Group was always there for me. They encouraged me to sit with and not in my anger, my sorrow and my disappointments, for a bit. They also encouraged me forward into something more. I had no idea what it would look like at the time and that really pissed my husband off! He wanted definitive answers and when they weren’t offered up he was ready to throw in the towel!

But, I knew that if I didn’t figure this out with him that I would just have to figure it out with someone else. I came to realize that it was about me. What could I receive? Where had I shut myself down? What if I could be vunerable again with him?

“We love the word vunerable. Nature is vunerable.It has no expectations and is willing to receive everything without judgment. Judgments mess you up on planet earth. You have all these expectations of life and then find yourself reacting when life cannot read your mind. But, it can read your energy and life is responding to your energies. If you feel not worthy of love, life will find a way to deliver that to you. If you feel anger then life will deliver things for you to be angry with. If you feel despondent then life will respond to that too! It is all about the energies and when you find ways to uplift your energies into something that feels better for you, you will find that life will respond in kind.

The journey can be one that is joyful, if you find things to be joyful about. The journey can be exciting if you find things to be excited about. The journey can be loving if you find ways to express your gratitude. There is no one destination while you are on planet earth. There are many. But when you have finished with life there, either through being so lonely and despondent or angry or disappointed or the myriad of other ways you cut yourself off from life, that you call some disease or accident to you in order to end it all or if you squeeze every last drop out of the living and decide you are ready for something different and in the doing peacefully slip away into another time and place…well dear ones it is all in your hands. You have the power. You always have had the power.

You magnificent beings of light and love-we love you-we are in gratitude for your beings-in gratitude for your presence on planet earth. Each of you makes a difference whether it provides the contrast or the inspiration or both!

And we heartily recommend one mode of operation that will make your being sing… know what it is….

Go For The Joy”

Linda and The Group



Linda Adsetts is a  healer, medium, psychic reader, channeller and writer. She receives channelled guidance and inspiration from The Group, a gathering of spirit who teach that our souls’ path is best expressed when we come from a place of joy. You can read how Linda got started down this fascinating path here and on her website where she shares daily messages from The Group.

Join her each Friday on Bliss Habits for an inspiring take on each of the habits.


6 thoughts on “The Journey can be Loving when…

  1. Wow – you’re so lucky you found out about the love languages and were able to repair the resentments in your relationship. I’m glad your first class went well and that you have the support and love of your mate 🙂

  2. Linda —

    Wow, you and the group are dead on with this one. I’ve had twists and turns in my marriage, and when I consciously brought gratitude into the mix, it seemed to turn into a straighter road.

    (Though you know me and gratitude … always a “win” there.)

    — Daniel

    • Thanks Daniel. Such a simple thing and yet we manage to complicate it 🙂
      I love the straighter road concept, but only because I know where you are coming from but it is the twists and turns that make life interesting!

  3. The Love Languages book is on my reading list… I can’t to read it. And I just loved your insights shared here, Linda. And I love your last line–“Go For The Joy”!

    • The book is insightful Tracy! I read it a number of years ago and it made me understand the dynamics of relationships.
      Go For The Joy is the tagline from The Group-they have been signing off with that for a number of years now and it is also the name of my web-site. 🙂
      Thanks for the feedback-I really appreciate it!

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